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Social Media: At What Age Should Your Teenage Child Open Accounts? [3 Answers Here]



effects of social media on teenagers

The topic social media is quite a large one. When it is discussed by parents, many persons have different views that tend to conflict with each other. Most parents right now are seeing nothing wrong with their teenage kids being on social media at an early age. Many say it helps the kid to socialize with other teenagers like him/herself on the internet.

When a Nigerian parent was asked if teenagers should be allowed to open social media accounts at early teenage age, his reply was that: “it is very good because it has helped my kids act and behave smarter because they are now more conversant with how the internet works.” His reply could be the same with some parents and as well, an opposite to other parents’ view as regards social media being used by teenagers.

Considering the dark sides of the social media of this age, should a teenager be there quite early?

In Benin city Nigeria, a young girl was attacked by a teenage boy during a secondary school inter-house sports. She was punched severely on the face and she was bleeding profusely. The situation was calmed by some soldiers who were fortunately present at the event.

When teachers and the authority dug deep into the root cause of the nasty scene, it was said that the two teenagers(The injured girl and boy who attacked her) have been involved in a Facebook word brawl for a while and the boy using the social media knowledge of her where about waited till the day of her school’s event to have a go of fight at her. He succeeded though got punished by the soldiers mercilessly.

Now, from the above short story, you would agree with me that on social media, users are quick to share literally almost everything about their lives there. Imagine your teenage son or daughter sharing all about his teenage life experience online with strangers he doesn’t know in real life?

While a few get lucky with positive friends, many teenagers don’t have so much of positive online friends because of the emotional pressure to explore the fantasies that comes with puberty and advancement into the adolescent stage of maturity. At this stage, if they are not properly managed by an adult to stay positive, they tend to make life threatening mistakes.


Well, be smart to know what works for your children. Some kids based on how they are raised can take corrections and parental bans with so much understanding and respect while some would cut corners to avoid obeying any form of parental restrictions.

So, what kind of kid have you raised in your home? If your answer is the latter, then you must be smarter to know when they are trying to cut corners. Take deliberate actions in always communicating with them deeply beyond greetings and errands. Take your relationship with them a little more forward and deeper. Feel what they feel and know what they know. This way, you will find the way to their hearts so easily. This will make counseling them a lot more easier.

Most parents are gradually loosing grip of their kids to social vices because they have failed woefully to learn to spend time with their kids and when these kids get a substitute for their parents, hardly would they want to look back.


If you are worried and confused about the contents your teenage child will be exposed to while making use of a smartphone. then you will need to actually go through some apps that are known for blocking adult content on smartphones used by kids.

These Apps helps you regulate the kinds of contents pop up on your teenager’s phone while surfing the internet any day, anytime. Regulating the ones who have smartphones is actually easy depending on what tactics you are employing.



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5 Reasons Why You Must Encourage Your Kids Everyday




ways to encourage your kids

Most times when we talk about encouragement as adults, we are quick to link it only to adults but actually, your kids need it more. Your kids in this context are not only those whom you gave birth to naturally but every little kid around you. When encouraged, lots of kids do extra-ordinary things when they know that they are valued and well appreciated.

As a parent or guardian, you need to be up and doing when it comes to fueling your kid’s confidence per day. Lack of self confidence is one of the reasons why some kids don’t do well in their academics. Generally, they will be slow to taking actions in a very courageous manner. They may end up becoming adult who do not have any iota of self confidence.


I was privileged to have an 11 year old student share her pains with me as regards less encouragement and attention from her dad. She said after using empty cartons to make some toy cars and more, her dad would act as though she did not do her best in her craft work. While saying this, she broke down in tears expressing that it hurts her so deep. I encouraged her and assured her that her dad is a good dad who cares about her and would never want to hurt her feelings. She was lightened up after much talk and went away happy.

From my above story, you could see that lack of encouragement hurts kids just the way it does to adults as well. She needed it to keep being smart and innovative but never got it from the one whom she thought would be her first audience and fan as well. How much of attention do you pay to your kids?

It is important for parents to learn how to encourage and motivate their kids always to keep them actively intelligent. Encouragement is a serious boost to the talents inherent in young children. This is a factor to them finding their place in life very early.

Here are some reasons why you need to encourage your kids daily:

1.It will help your kids develop fast in skills

When a little kid is encouraged, such a child stands bold to keep on trying that which you encouraged him/her about. The encouragement here serves as a reinforcement to the foundation of the child’s natural talent. Taking this serious will serve as a pillar to your kids.

2. It builds their confidence

There is something about confidence that makes it easy for one to be able to give a shot at plenty kinds of ideas that comes to one’s mind. Confidence is good for your kids as it will aid them not to look down on themselves at any point in time.

3. It makes your kids creative

Creativity needs some little push of encouragement. Kids are not adults and should not be expected to be able to encourage themselves from the inside. They need it from the ones whom they love (You and others around them). This makes them feel that their minds can give rise to many good ideas.

Hence, they will become creative with things they know at very young age. Men and women who shook the world from young ages did so because along the lane of life and time, they got encouraged by someone who believed in them.

4. It makes them self-sufficient

Being self sufficient is a virtue that can be developed when there is a good amount of encouragement invested in a child. He/she grows up to become self sufficient for different assignments in life. Can you imagine ignoring your kids all day and not care about what they are up to in terms of education, intellect, skills and more and then they end up as nobodies of the society?

As a parent or guardian, it is very important that you take serious the art of encouraging your kids. They need all that can be given to them for a better future.

5. It can help them stay focused to achieve their dreams

Encouragement may seem so simple an art but it is a fuel that run some life engines for decades. It can help your kids stay focused on what they aspire to become in the nearest future. This kind of focus is fierce because it keeps them conscious of where they are coming from and where they are going to as well. Starting today to keep your kids encouraged is never too late an art of parenting to embark on.

Good luck!

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